Friday, March 15, 2013

Unicorns become possible again

Congratulations to blogfriend (and real life friend) Weer'd Beard, who (with Mrs. Weer'd) is expecting his first child.  This is the start of a long adventure, as you already know.  Enjoy the journey my friend, it's worth it.

As I wrote then looking back on the road that I've walked and that Weer'd is embarking upon:
Watching your children grow should make you think of how you grew. Watching your children grow should make you think of your parents, watching you grow. Watching your children grow should make you think of them, watching their children yet-to-be-born grow.

Time is a great river, never quite still in its flow. It's easy to get all caught up in the action in the eddy of the moment, and not see the flow towards the sea.
I hope that you have as much joy as I've had from this journey, Weer'd.


ASM826 said...


Old NFO said...

Well said Sir! And very true!!!

Goober said...

My first just turned two. They have been the most rewarding and fun years of my life. Weerd, congrats, man. YOu are about to start down an amazing path that I don't even think that you have the capability of understanding fully yet - I sure didn't.

That being said, the one thing that I can't shake, and has been bothering me ever since it happened was my fear that I felt immediately after the delivery, and my inability to connect with my daughter until the next morning. I was scared. Terrified. I wanted to run out of the building and never look back. My wife tells me that she felt the same way.

I don't know what caused that feeling. I was exhausted. I'd been up for nearly 40 hours at that point. I think the over-riding shock of what had just happened, coupled with the exhaustion, just caused me to lose my head for a minute and go into BSoD mode for a few minutes. I cowboyed up and pushed through it, and by the next morning the feeling had passed and all was right again.

I've talked to numerous men afterwards that said that they felt the same thing and couldn't explain it. it is irrational and stupid, and i feel guilty about it to this day.

I only tell you this so that you can be prepared in case it happens to you. Just know that it will pass, and the best years of your life are in front of you, not behind you.

Best to you and your wife!