Thursday, November 5, 2015

A Parent Should Never Have To Bury A Child

But it happens all the time.

Yesterday it happened to me.

We had fours sons.

One of them took his own life yesterday.


70 comments:

ThoreMo said...

The stuff of nightmares. Prayers outgoing.

Bob said...

Jesus wept. My deepest condolences, Mark, prayers going out.

Divemedic said...

Sorry for your loss.

The Big Guy said...

Condolences & prayers...
Jay

The Big Guy said...

Condolences & prayers...
Jay

wvmountainwoman said...

This hit me like a punch in the stomach. Instant flashback to six years ago when my only son took his life. I feel your pain. I'm now to the point where I can make it through each day without doubling over with the grief, but reading this first thing in the morning just flattened me. I can't tell you that you will ever get over this but you will learn to live with it. It will take time. I don't remember the first two years after my son died. My mother gave up on life six months after her beloved grandson died. She didn't want to live without him. I wanted to give up too but I couldn't do that to my daughter. Somehow we've found a way to keep on living and to treasure each other. He left so many questions behind that we will never know the answers to. We've learned to accept that. Your grief will always be with you but time will soften it some. I'm sitting here crying for you and your family, for me, and for all the other parents who have lost a child in this horrible way. I'm sending you my prayers for your pain to lessen as time goes by. Hang in there for the sake of the rest of your family.

B said...

My thoughts and prayers go out to you.

Glen Filthie said...

I'm sorry ASM. In tough times a man gets caught up in looking after others - make sure you take a little time aside to look after yourself too.

Tacitus2 said...

There are no words. But still, so sorry.

Tacitus

Borepatch said...

Mark, remember you are not alone.

Weetabix said...

I'm sorry. I know I can't even begin to imagine how you feel. Prayers sent for you and your son.

Peter said...

I'm so very sorry to hear this. As a pastor I had to help families deal with this . . . and it was almost impossible. There are simply no easy answers. It's a nightmare that can only be lived through until you come out the other side.

All I can say is, lean on your loved ones and friends. They're your lifeline at times like this. Don't try to handle the pain alone. You need them.

I'll keep you and yours in my prayers.

New Jovian Thunderbolt said...

Oh no!

Sean D Sorrentino said...

Unlike. Double plus unlike

David aka True Blue Sam said...

You and your family are in our prayers.

gunfreezone said...

Nothing we say can assuage your pain, but we can only offer our prayers.

Walter Zoomie said...

I'm so sorry.

abnormalist said...

Thoughts and prayers for you and yours....

gruvinbass said...

I'm so sorry, you'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Chad

Matt W said...

Prayers for you and your family, so sad to hear.

bruce said...

the tears of the heart, the tears of the mind, when they meet we can rest
blessed be the ones left, they have only time
till the end when all is wonderfully bare

take care

doubletrouble said...

Very sorry to hear this.
Prayers forthcoming for your son, you, & your family.

Farm.Dad said...

Words are hollow at a time like this . Just know that you have our condolences and hope for eventually finding a measure of peace and acceptance .

Rev. Paul said...

We're deeply saddened by this; our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Tom Lindsay said...

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Knitebane said...

Our deepest condolences. Keeping your and yours in our prayers.

markofafreeman said...

Speechless.

Just lost my mother a little over three weeks ago. She was 87.

But that is the way of things. We outlive our parents. Not the other way around.

My heart is heavy for your loss. I'm holding back real tears at this moment.

Peace to you and yours.

Jennifer said...

I'm so very sorry.

OldAFSarge said...

Thoughts and prayers.

Murphy's Law said...

I wish I could say something to ease the pain. I'm so sorry and you and your family will be in my prayers.

Spikessib said...

I know you are hurting and I wish I knew what to say. I am so very sad and sorry.

Raptor said...

'I'm sorry' doesn't seem like it's near enough right now.

Know that you are in Raptor Clan's thoughts and prayers.

2cents said...

To some extent, I make my living with words. There are quite literally no words that approach an appropriate expression of grief.

Bill Matthey said...

There are no words.
I am sorry for your loss.

libertyman said...

Nothing could hurt more, I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

Old NFO said...

So sorry for your loss. No words...

ProudHillbilly said...

So very, very sorry. Prayers.

WOZ said...

The five stages of grief are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. It's a long road from denial to acceptance. Sending up a Divine Mercy novena for your son and prayers for you and family. Hugs help.

burt said...

There are no words... prayers for you and your loved ones.

May your sorrows lay gently on your brow, may your grief pass by, and may your memories be sweet.

Aaron said...

Sincere condolences.

Goober said...

My heart is broken for you and your family.

Strength. For you and your family.

Shane W said...

My sincerest condolences

GuardDuck said...

Sorry is so very inadequate.

ccbpc said...

So very sorry for your loss.

Dan said...

Oh, man. Prayers for you and yours.

Keads said...

So sorry for your loss.

Paul Bonneau said...

Why do young people do this?

I was suicidal at that age. Now that I'm old I can hardly see what my issues were, but they were real enough back then. I remember that much.

waepnedmann said...

No words.

Paul, Dammit! said...

Oh, lord, I am so sorry.

thesouthtexaspistolero said...

Oh no. So, so sorry to hear this.

Bryn said...

So sorry I could not post a reply the first time I saw your news - it just hit us too hard.
Our thoughts and best wishes, and a hope that you can all come out the other side without leaving bits of yourselves behind in the storm.
Our sincere condolences,
Bryn and Diane (Isle of Anglesey, UK).

Hat Trick said...

My deepest condolences. I cannot imagine your pain. Don't be afraid to lean on your family and friends, they will help you through this.

Ken said...

I'm terribly sorry for your loss.

pigpen51 said...

words ring hollow, at a time like this, but thoughts from everyone here are all full of love and care for you and yours. may God comfort you.

Coop said...

I am sorry for your loss.

Laura said...

i'm so very, very sorry.

Lawrence Person said...

Condolences.

Graybeard said...

There are no words for such times. Just wishes and prayers for your recovery and peace of mind.

kahr40 said...

Condolences.

Matt said...

So very sorry. Prayers and condolences.

Matt said...

So very sorry. Prayers and condolences.

Secesh said...

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.

eiaftinfo said...

So sorry for your loss, will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

lee n. field said...

"There are no words" is true. There aren't.

Every parent's nightmare. We lost two sons in 2013, separately but within weeks of each other.

You have before you a long series of very depressing tasks ahead of you, that you never anticipated. Short term and long term, stuff that just has to be got through. You will get through. Take care of yourself, and take care of the rest of the family.

--cb

Chris said...

I cannot and do not want to imagine your pain. I can only pray and weep for you and your family.

forest grump said...

prayers for you and your family.

NotClauswitz said...

Oh jeeze. I'm terribly sorry, and while this comes late and I have no children of my own to compare the grief, I am still sorry.

Comrade Misfit said...

My condolences. Don't know much else to say.

juvat said...

We'll keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers.

eatgrueldog said...

My wife lost her 38 Yr. old son on the 21st. It is a truly terrible place to be. May time dull your pain and bring you some peace. Truly, my best regards and most sincere of sympathies. Send my condolences to your wife as well.