Yup. You see this line of thought being responsible for a lot of ugly divorces and just general ugliness.
Very little good comes from this sort of thinking. It generally morphs over time, from "I wonder if I'd be happier if I was single?" to "my stupid husband/wife is making me miserable!"
After a person has made you "miserable" for enough years, any action against them can be justified. Including taking their children from them and filing frivolous restraining orders.
The fact is, if you're happy, you'll be happy whether you're single or not. If you're miserable, you'll be miserable if you're single or not (or rich, or young, or thinner, or, or, or)
If you seek happiness THROUGH other things, you'll be largely disappointed, but at least you'll have all those things to blame for not making you happy, instead of having to look at who is truly guilty - you.
These ideas are traps. To ask these questions is to be snared by them.
ReplyDeleteTruths:
ReplyDelete1. There is no spoon.
2. The cake is a lie.
3. I have read the End User License Agreement.
Got it.
It's like bobbing for apples!
ReplyDeleteYup. You see this line of thought being responsible for a lot of ugly divorces and just general ugliness.
ReplyDeleteVery little good comes from this sort of thinking. It generally morphs over time, from "I wonder if I'd be happier if I was single?" to "my stupid husband/wife is making me miserable!"
After a person has made you "miserable" for enough years, any action against them can be justified. Including taking their children from them and filing frivolous restraining orders.
The fact is, if you're happy, you'll be happy whether you're single or not. If you're miserable, you'll be miserable if you're single or not (or rich, or young, or thinner, or, or, or)
If you seek happiness THROUGH other things, you'll be largely disappointed, but at least you'll have all those things to blame for not making you happy, instead of having to look at who is truly guilty - you.